As I was going through my Connection Beyond mail, I received a question from a young lady asking how someone can tell if one is a medium and asked “How can I tell a fraud from a true medium?”. Great question! and instead of answering it via e-mail, I thought many people probably had the same question. In addition, I have a pretty stern view of the whole topic. So, perhaps I will be blunt, but in doing so, may save some of you some time and money by avoiding those who claim to be mediums, but really are using other methods.
First and foremost, a MEDIUM IS NOT A PSYCHIC. However, Mediums receive impressions clairvoyantly (clear vision), clairaudiently (clear hearing), and through clairsentience (clear sensing)…among other methods. These are technically, “psychic” abilities. However, in the media and commercial mainstream today, having a psychic reading means predicting the future. It could encompass psychic impressions through the methods explained above, or it could be done through remote viewing, or seeing different energy lines. In my own interpretation, and please note this is my opinion, the future is not set in stone, and we do have free will to choose different pathways. However, I do believe in seeing a destined “guide post” or “event” if one remains on the current path. I believe we live our own adventure story, with significant or “destined” points and people along the way. Some of these points will serve to take us to a higher level, some are lessons we need to learn, some are tough, but all are fortunate events for us to learn and TO CHOOSE. If we choose to stay at a lower vibration, and not take the opportunities presented to us at the destined points that are meant to change us to a higher vibration, then we continue along the energy line already chosen, and a talented remote viewer or psychic reader may see events along those current lines, provided ALL ON THOSE LINES remain in the current choices! Now here’s where it gets tricky…if you are asking about a relationship, a psychic may see an “outcome”, but sometimes only to a “choice” on the map. When a “choice point” occurs, the energy lines may remain blurred or dim depending on choice. It looks kind of like a map with lines going all through it.
A MEDIUM, on the other hand, is a MESSENGER and A MEDIUM between this world and the next. A medium raises the vibration and remains “in the middle” of both worlds, so as to “hear” messages from THOSE WHO HAVE PASSED AND RELAY THEM TO THE LIVING. The main mission of a medium is to provide undeniable details and validations from the loved one on the other side to provide healing, comfort and hope to the person on earth. Mediumship IS NOT ENTERTAINMENT, or something to be accessed at bachelorette parties, or “just for fun”. It is for those who really need healing, both on this plane and the next. If one is to do mediumship work, it is IMPERATIVE that this person present pure mediumship, and not disguise other psychic methods, or personality reading techniques as a substitute to play on people’s grieving emotional states and hopes of making a real connection with a loved one.
The problem is that MOST who claim to be mediums are not in a pure channel. It’s like going to McDonalds and expecting burger that’s 100% beef. The reality is that you are eating a little bit of beef and mostly seaweed! Same with a good amount of people out there that claim to connect with the other side. In addition there are those who are truly gifted but do not know how to separate the other abilities that are going on, and put them all into one reading and call it “mediumship”. Sorry, but a mixture of psychic information, connection to a past loved one, empathic reading, personality reading, character reading, advice, aura reading, spiritual advice, IS NOT PURE MEDIUMSHIP. These are FILLERS.
HERE IS THE PROBLEM. Most of the general public does not know “technical aspects of mediumship”, and can be easily manipulated into believing that they are receiving an actual message from a loved one when in reality they are receiving perhaps some connection, but the majority of the reading may be ridden with fillers. Now, looking at the reading, they may say WOW! Everyone was right on! This medium knew my personality, how I do things, information about my life and how I feel. Now granted, they may leave feeling a lot better, but in reality they were fooled. What they experienced was mostly a “reading”, but it was not pure mediumship.
A main difference between a psychic experience and mediumship, is the presence of a third entity, or “spirit”. The medium should be connected to the SPIRIT and not the person receiving the reading. The medium should be going to the person for periodic validation of the information to make sure the connection is correct, but should not be asking tons of questions, or speaking mainly about the personality or feelings of the person sitting for the reading. One of the main ways a reader could tell they are in a mediumship channel and is that they are able to sense, and feel the PERSONALITY OF THE SPIRIT, and may feel after the connection that they have actually been in that person’s presence.
IMPORTANT ELEMENTS IN A PURE MEDIUMSHIP READING
- Names of those who have past and of the living if a message is to be relayed to a living person
- The name of the “passed loved one” is not necessary if other names and details are validated
- Accurate representation of the PERSONALITY of the spirit
- Details about the passing (whether medical, emotional, or otherwise)
- Personal details about you and the person who passed that only you would know
- Little details or events that happened in the previous weeks prior to the reading that are mentioned
- Events surrounding the passing
- Accurate representation of relatives, friends and loved ones present with those on the other side
- A MESSAGE!
THREE ELEMENTS THAT ARE A MUST IN MEDIUMSHIP
- Spirit Identification (Either name, how a person passed, physical description, relation to sitter, etc)
- Details & Validations (Personal details, events and incidents that only YOU would know. These details could be funny memories, a thought you had recently, what you bought at the store, renovations to your home, anything that proves that the information is NOT GENERAL. The purpose of these little details is to show the authentication of the connection AND MAINLY SO YOU WILL LISTEN TO THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THE READING: THE MESSAGE!
- THE MESSAGE: Why is the spirit here? There should be reason. Does the spirit want to provide a healing message? Reveal details about a passing that were not known? Offer an opinion, warning or message to a loved one? Trying to take care of unfinished business? There is always a REASON. A spirit is not going to come in JUST FOR FUN. There is always a reason.
THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR
- A Medium who claims to connect with whoever you want them to, on command.
- A Medium who claims to be able to “get those” on the other side, and who engages in two way connection
- A Medium who provides a lot of OPINIONS and not objective details. Beware of those who insert their own spiritual beliefs, insight, or opinions in readings.
- A Medium who is arrogant, self righteous, not very empathic or sympathetic, or who claims to be a religious guru.
- A Medium who is still active in an addiction (channels may be open to negative energies or information)
- A Medium who is reading for the purpose of their ego and not for the purpose of service
- A Medium who is vague or choppy in the connection, or who bounces from topic to topic, you should feel you are in a flow.
- ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
WHAT IS NOT A GOOD READING: NOT ENOUGH VALIDATION
” I feel a woman around you, a grandmother figure. Do you have a grandmother who passed? Ok, well she is around you, and wants you to know she is watching over you, and that there are angels all around you. She wants you to know that she remembers taking care of you as a child and loves you very much. She is mentioning her baking, and saying she misses cooking for the family. She wants you to know that she was with you when you went through a difficult time, and that she will be with you as you make your choices.”
A POWERFUL READING: AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT A GOOD READING FROM A MEDIUM WOULD SOUND LIKE
Medium: I get the names Marie and Frank. How are they connected to you? (Spirit Identification)
Readee: Marie is my grandmother who passed and Frank is my grandfather that is still alive.
Medium: Your grandmother was a bit of a loudmouth and a firecracker! She lived a long life and is mentioning she was driving even late in life. She was very sarcastic and claims to have been the voice for the family. She is standing there with her hand on her hip, and mentioning that her hair is perfect and her nails are done. She is coming through with a little bit of an attitude of “like it or leave it”. (Personality of spirit)
Readee: YES! That is exactly my grandmother’s personality, and she always stood like that when she was annoyed with something. She gave the family a hard time because we wanted to take away the keys to her car when she was 88, but she raised hell. And yes, she was ALWAYS sarcastic. That’s her.
Medium: Ok well she’s mentioning her husband Frank (flowing with the information, staying on track), and she is frustrated that he is not listening to the rest of of the family in relation to his health. She is mentioning high blood pressure and something being wrong with his knee and he won’t talk about it, or fix it! (NOTICE, NO QUESTIONS HERE…the medium could ask for validation if it makes sense)
Readee: Yes. Our grandfather fell last week outside and hurt his knee. It took a couple days to heal, and he says he’s ok, but he is still having trouble getting out of the chair. It’s been about a month and he hasn’t gotten out much and he has been eating a lot of TV Dinners, which he shouldn’t be due to his blood pressure issues.
Medium: (HERE IS THE MESSAGE) Grandma want to make sure that you let him know he has to get it checked, because it is worse than he is telling you (Grandma is now squealing on grandpa).
Readee: Yeah we figured that, but he is a bit of a skeptic. He may not believe that this really happened.
Medium: (Personal Details and Validations). Tell him that she knew he couldn’t get his shoe on this morning, because his foot was a little swollen. Also, mention the can of rusty nails he keeps in the back room that he hasn’t thrown out in 30 years and that she always yelled at him for, and the old kethup bottle that he is still trying to use in the fridge for the past week.
Readee: Wow! I know about the nails and the ketchup but not about the foot. Maybe I should call him now and ask him about it. (Makes call) YES! He couldn’t put on his shoes this morning. He knows I am seeing a medium today and now he may listen to grandmas advice to get his leg checked.
This is just a small example. Some readings may go on like this for an hour. But these are some of the things you should be looking for. If a medium starts telling you about YOUR PERSONALITY, how you should be living, giving you spiritual advice, this is a different type of reading!! Mediumship should be details, validations, and a clear message, and THAT’S IT! Sadly, it’s those who are very good at manipulation and what some call “cold reading” that are the ones who can pass as real mediums.
If in doubt, see a number of mediums to compare and see them LIVE as they connect to a group. Also, compare your one on one experience with the group experience. and see how it fares. MOST OF ALL, TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT. Just because someone has a large following or even a media presence does not mean they are ethical or real.
Hope this helps!! Have a great weekend!